Whenever a couple decide to break it off, it is truly heartbreaking. But if we know that it is on the cards, you can be better prepared to handle it.
Being dumped by a partner is a feeling that none of us want to go back to. It hurts too much and keep us reeling in shock for a longer period than we'd ever imagined. However, if we had an idea this was going to happen we would have been better prepared. We would have known how to calm our gentle hearts and take it in our stride. Instead, we were left picking up the smithereens of what remained.
While we think we were blindsided, it was possible that our partners were giving us signs without talking about it. Their body language could have been a strong indicator. If we knew how to identify those signs, the next time we won't be caught in a situation like this. We don't have to feel deeply hurt and betrayed for being clueless about it. We can even confront our partner over the issue and set about fixing the problems.
If you want to be ahead of the game and know what is on your partner's mind, here are some body language signs you should know about:
Maintaining eye contact with your significant other is a strong indication of a love connection. In a 1970 study, social psychologist Zick Rubin tried to measure romantic love by analyzing eye contact between a couple who were left alone in a room, according to HuffPost. The couples who had a deeper connection with their partner maintained eye contact for a longer time.
So, if you feel that he looks into your eyes lesser than he used to, it's a point of concern, said Traci Brown, a body language expert and author of Persuasion Point: Body Language and Speech for Influence. “Eye contact takes some level of intimacy,” she said. “People look at things they like! If it diminishes, you know you’ve got trouble.”
Imagine being in a dark movie theatre and just leaning in for a small kiss but your partner turns away. And, this has happened multiple times. If that's the case, you could be due for a breakup. If your partner is trying to break up with you, they will cut back on the public display of affection. So, holding hands in public, or even a hug might be out of the question, reports Bustle.
In a happy relationship, good sex life plays an important role. The frequency and quality of sex also matter to make sure that both partners are satisfied. However, if you find your partner decreasing the amount of sex exponentially, then all is not well in paradise.
If your partner finds more excuses to not have sex than to have sex, it's a red flag. If you have been turned down multiple times in the bedroom, it is time to prepare yourself for the worst.
Our eyes are the window to our soul. It tells others when we are interested in them or not. "When you're sexually attracted to someone, your pupils will dilate in a moment of intimacy," Patti Wood, body language expert and author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma told GoodHousekeeping.com. "It happens subconsciously, so it's a good indicator of your significant other's interest in you," she adds.
Next time your partner acts disinterested, check their eyes as you go in for a kiss.
When a person's toes point inward, it's a subconscious way to show attraction towards someone. We try to shrink in size and appear approachable, says Lillian Glass, a behavioral analyst and author of I Know What You’re Thinking: Using the Four Codes of Reading People to Improve Your Life.
“When their toes no longer point inward ― or in your direction when they are sitting or standing next to you ― it’s a red flag,” she told HuffPost. “It really is telling whenever the body leans away or there’s too much space between a couple.”
Furrowed eyebrows indicate criticism and nobody likes to be told they are wrong. The moment your partner shows up with judgy eyes to a discussion, you become defensive and fight and argue instead of trying to solve the issue.
If you are able to tell that your partner is showing these signs, it would be a good idea to approach them about what is plaguing them about the relationship. That can be a start towards better understanding and healing together.