Anthony Hopkins, 82, and his daughter, Abigail, 52, are estranged and it doesn't seem like that they would ever forgive each other.
Growing up without the love of a parent can change us in permanent ways. It can make us less willing to be vulnerable, trustful, and give us some mental health issues as well. Not having a present parent is hard enough but what do you do when your parent tells the world that they don't care about fixing your relationship? Imagine how hard it would be to be the daughter of a father who wants nothing to do with you.
Actor Anthony Hopkins, 82, has been married thrice and is a father to one, but he never maintained his relationship with his only child. Hopkins has an Academy Award, three BAFTAs, two Emmys, and the Cecil B. DeMille Award, but only one child. In his pursuit of a rewarding life on stage, he sacrificed his personal one. He was married to Petronella Barker from 1966 to 1972, and they are parents to Abigail Hopkins, 52.
Unfortunately, she's never seen much of her father throughout her life. He battled addiction and was able to take some control of his life only by 1975. "I led a pretty self-destructive life for a few decades. It was only after I put my demons behind me that I was able to fully enjoy acting," he said, as per Biography, but the work he was willing to put into getting sober didn't translate into a better relationship with his daughter.
As per a report in 2018 by The Telegraph, the 82-year-old actor and his daughter hadn't spoken to each other in 20 years. He didn't even know if he was a grandfather. "I don’t have any idea," he said and continued, "People break up. Families split and, you know, ‘Get on with your life.’ People make choices. I don’t care one way or the other."
He left his wife of more than 10 years when their daughter was not even two. The English actor moved to America and the physical distance coupled with his alcoholism and the way he treated Barker is why they don't have a relationship, according to Birmingham Live.
Abigail said in 2005 that she didn't have very many memories of him. She said, "I would see him, but maybe once a year. There is a little bit of sadness, but I have to get on with my life. It has always been like that. See him, and then not."
He didn't just leave Barker for sunnier opportunities in the US but also for another woman. He met Jenni Lynton, who became his second wife, when she was sent to pick him up at an airport. He had missed his flight because he was drunk.
Abigail's friends said that Hopkins' "heartless" comments would upset her and the lack of a connection between them has been impactful in her life. When Hopkins was confronted by The Times about his comments, he said, "No, I wasn’t cold. I’m not cold. Her choice is her choice." He continued, "You know, I did the best I could, but you know, okay, I think if somebody doesn’t want to be part of my life, fine. Go and do whatever you want. I wish her well and all that, but I don’t want to talk about my daughter. Those things are over."
"I’ve got no blame," he added and continued, "People do what they do. And I don’t understand it and it doesn’t bother me. I can’t waste my time worrying about it. And I’m not cold, I’m just thinking, ‘Oh well, that’s the way it is.'"
It is not easy for a child to move on from a bad relationship with a parent and what child won't want to fix it. Abigail, too, doesn't seem much different as she said that she felt sad about the state of their bond. She too had gone down the path of addiction, which she says she inherited from her father and battled with depression. "I came very close to killing myself. It was the worst time I can remember. I totally abused my mind and body. The root cause was the fact that my father and I had an intermittent relationship when I was young. I was angry and there was a lot of grieving going on," she told the Telegraph.
She picked herself up after that but wanted the path to a strong bond between them to be a two-way street, which never happened.