She has learned to be a compassionate and understanding human being and credits her three brothers for inspiring her to do so.
The lack of awareness sparks judgments against people suffering from disabilities. Nobody can talk about it other than people who have experienced it. While individuals and families dealing with disabilities are looked upon as victims of unfortunate circumstances, Ali Carbone from Long Island, New York does not look at her life the same way.
According to Health.com, Carbone who has three autistic brothers considers them to be a blessing who has gifted her with an "advantage in life." Sharing her story on Love What Matters, the young girl described growing with her brothers who inspired her to become a compassionate person.
In her story, Carbone remembers the three important dates that changed the course of her life. "On April 3rd, 1994, autism was born into mine and my parents' lives. It would happen again on July 27th, 1999, and again on August 2nd, 2001," wrote Carbone on Love What Matters. She says how her three brothers Michael, Anthony, and Luke represented the wide spectrum of autism under one roof.
"No two autistic people are alike, and for many, autism is just the beginning of the developmental and cognitive disorders they will have to deal with throughout their lives," stated Carbone who notes that her brothers are very different from each other.
She recalls how she was not aware of her siblings' condition as a kid. "It wasn’t until I was in Elementary school and aware of my surroundings, going on playdates and seeing how my friends and their siblings interacted and how their family dynamics were so different than what I experienced every day, that I began to realize," said Carbone.
Growing up, she believed that the presence of her brothers influenced her. It allowed her to become a compassionate and understanding person. They gave her a greater purpose in life. She said, "As a kid, I already understood compassion and could instantly tell if another kid around me was disabled or autistic, and I’d treat them with kindness. Even back then I remember feeling like there was bigger meaning or purpose to my life."
The proud sister also shared her post on Facebook and Instagram where it resonated with a lot of people. The post went viral with 3,000 reactions and over 1,000 shares on Facebook.
"I have a grandson who is autistic graduating High School this year and going to college. We never gave up on him and we are so proud of how far he has come," commented one Facebook user. A father who also connected with Carbone's post commented, "As the father of three daughters with autism," he began, "I can completely relate to your situation. It takes special people to be the parents of children with autism. God bless you."
Carbone attributes the virtues of her life to her brothers. She claims that they taught her everything about "real life." She wrote, "My brothers and autism have taught me everything I know to be true about life. Real life. How to live, how to treat people, how to think and how to feel."
In the post shared with a picture of her and her brothers, she points out that something as simple as taking a picture might look easy, but it is rather impossible or rare to see her brothers dressed up for a group picture. She also mentions how important it is to be non-judgemental and sensitive to the people around you. "If you see a kid flapping their arms, don’t laugh. If you see an adult having a meltdown, don’t stare. If they go for a hug or high five, don’t shy away. A smile from a stranger can quite literally change our day," said Carbone.