"I promise to love you as if you were my own, and lastly I promise I will be the best wife for your dad, and I promise to be the best step mom I can be for you."
Vanessa Lynch, a 30-year-old from Minnesota, got married to Craig Lynch earlier this month. She planned to surprise her husband and stepson, Henry, by adding some vows for him, reports PEOPLE. She says, "At first I wasn't going to do it, because I didn't want Henry to feel uncomfortable in front of everyone." However, she went ahead with her plan. "But after some time thinking it over, I felt like something would have felt left out if I did not say a little something to Henry." Lynch was very anxious as to how this plan would work out on her wedding but she knew that she was going to do the right thing.
She wanted Henry, "to know that I wasn't just going to be a woman his dad was married to." Lynch knows how parents' remarriage can destroy the idea of family for children and wanted to make sure that Henry knows that he will be loved. She recalls the moment and adds, "So when I was done with Craig's vows, I motioned for Craig to scoot over so I could see Henry. That's when the tears started flowing, when I looked at Henry in that moment."
In this heart-warming video on Daily Mail, Lynch promised her stepson that she will love and care for him all throughout her life. "Henry, I know I wasn't there the day you came into the world. I wasn't there for your first steps or your first words, but I promise I will be there for many more of your firsts." She adds with tears in her eyes, "I promise to love you as if you were my own, and lastly I promise I will be the best wife for your dad, and I promise to be the best step mom I can be for you." This moment moved everybody present at the wedding and Henry gave his stepmom a warm hug after listening to her words.
Lynch says that her decision of including Henry in her vows is inspired by the environment she grew up in. "I come from a blended family, so me deciding to say vows to Henry really stemmed from my experience as a child — how stepparents should treat stepchildren as though they were their own children." Lynch was dating Craig's roommate when she first met him in Augsburg College in Minneapolis. She met Henry the first time a few months after her relationship with Craig started. She states, "I wanted to wait as long as it took for Henry to feel comfortable. I planned our first time together by us three going to see monster trucks together, we all had a blast."
Lynch emphasizes how blood relations are not the only measure for familial love. She says, "Just because you don't share blood with someone, does not mean you cannot be a family." She adds, "It all comes from love you hold for a person and what you commit to one another."
Cover Image Source: Still from Daily Mail video/Vanessa Lynch