According to the bride, the friend's boyfriend was too handsome and rich to be with someone like her
Some friends aren't really your friends and the faster you understand the better it is. This woman probably wishes she had cut her toxic friend off a little earlier. She took to Reddit to share how her friend, "Mary", a bride-to-be, tried to set her up with a groomsman, who she considers to be more in the woman's league, despite her being in a committed relationship because she believes that the woman's 'good-looking' and 'rich' boyfriend is too good for her.
The woman wrote, "My friend, “Mary,” and I have known each other since we were children. We’ve grown apart over the past few years, but she still considers me important enough to make me a bridesmaid. Her wedding is set to be in 3 weeks. One reason why I sort of distanced myself from her was because of her treatment of my relationship. My boyfriend, “Jack,” and I have been together for 3 and ½ years. He’s a wonderful person, and there is no doubt in my mind that this is the man I want to marry, but Mary is under the impression that Jack is “too good for me”"
She continued, "Jack comes from a very wealthy background. His parents are certainly very wealthy; he was practically guaranteed a lavish life from the moment that he left the womb. This is in stark contrast to my childhood; I grew up in a low-income neighbourhood, often wondering where my next meal was, or how I was gonna help pay the bills at a young age etc. I’m grateful and proud for where I am today. Jack is considered to be “conventionally attractive,” always looking like he should be on some magazine or billboard somewhere.
Jack’s good looks and background have led Mary to believe that “Jack deserves better than me,” as, according to her, “There’s no way I could have pulled someone so attractive and rich.” It’s pretty disheartening to hear those things constantly and it does kind of take a toll on you (and the friendship.) Whenever Jack is around, she’s quite polite and respectful, never once making those comments. Eventually, the comments stopped."
Just when you think things can't get worse, Mary does something terrible. The woman wrote, "Mary invited me for lunch with her fiancé and his friend, “Gary.” From the moment I arrived, Mary and her fiancé were consumed in their own conversation, paying no attention to the both of us. It was fine, as Gary seemed to be a great lad with great chat. He asked me why I was single, and I toldto him that I was in a happy committed relationship.
He was very taken aback by my answer. He told me that Mary had set up a blind, double-date of sorts for the both of us. I was very confused (and slightly angry) I didn’t want to be confrontational at lunch (especially in public) so I just carried on with the lunch. Luckily Gary wasn’t upset and ended up making a few jokes about the whole ordeal."
The woman knew that she was done with their friendship, she wasn't going to let her get away with it this time. She continued, "I called Mary later on in the day and asked her a ton of questions about why she thought it was okay to do that. At first she tried to deny it, but then she tried to justify it by saying that “Gary is a man who’s more in my league,” and since he was also a groomsmen, “We needed to ‘get to know each other’ better,” I was shocked by her bluntness, so I just told her that I didn’t want to be her bridesmaid anymore. Granted, it was a pretty impulsive decision, but I still stand by it. Mary didn’t take it well; trying to apologise and saying that it was a mistake. It’s been a few days and her fiancé has been texting me, asking me to suck it up for the wedding." She then explained that she feels "petty and conflicted" and asked other users for advice.
Users not only supported her but also warned her to never let her 'friend' back into her life. "You are so absolutely NTA (Not the a**hole) and you should have dumped this “friend” the minute she told you Jack was too good for you. Don’t let her change your mind," one wrote, while another said, "This girl is not your friend. She’s jealous your partner is good looking and well off. I would not only not be her bridesmaid but I also wouldn’t attend the wedding. She has no respect for your relationship. I would simply tell her fiancée that you stand by your decision and he should be questioning whether or not he wants to marry someone that acts that way." A third added, "My very first thought was “Mary is JEALOUS”. I think she envies that you got Jack and she didn’t. Definitely 101% NTA. I’d distance myself too. And I definitely wouldn’t invite her to your wedding with Jack (fingers crossed!) later on."