During the trip, the friend was "nitpicking and yelling at everyone for EVERYTHING, from the clothes we wore out in public because 'we were embarrassing her,' eating or drinking water 'too loudly.'"
Months of planning between a group of friends for a road trip ended with one of the girls being ditched at a gas station, after which the rest of the friends blocked her number on their phones.
The girl, who was abandoned by the rest of the group, was described as "very irritable" by the person who shared the incident on Reddit.
"[She] says she has depression, anxiety, PTSD and borderline personality disorder despite having never gone to a therapist or psychiatrist (she thinks psychiatry and therapy are shams). Initially, we didn’t want to invite her but she tends to get very upset when she gets left out," wrote the friend, who was 17 years old when the incident took place.
Talking about a conversation that the three of them had with the "mentally-ill" friend, the user wrote, "We explained to her that we were not going to spend 3 weeks putting up with her outbursts and she needed to control them so we could all have fun. She made a fuss about it but eventually agreed."
When the four girls were finally on their trip, "Our one friend was nitpicking and yelling at everyone for EVERYTHING, from the clothes we wore out in public because 'we were embarrassing her,' eating or drinking water 'too loudly,' all the way down to two different conversations going on at the same time because it was 'too much noise' for her. She was the only one on the aux and refused to let anyone else have a turn... I told her she needed to keep her promise that she wouldn’t be a pain so that we could just have fun, but she kept insisting that she wasn’t being rude and kept bringing up her self-diagnosed mental illnesses," the user wrote.
In her post, the girl revealed that she and her friends were "sick" of the fourth friend's behavior and at one point during the trip, they stopped at a gas station and waited for the friend to go in, to buy something, before speeding off without her.
After abandoning her at the gas station that afternoon, the friend who wrote the post said she send her some cash through her phone and then blocked her number. Then, "she blew up my friends phones with threats and insults until we all blocked her and enjoyed the rest of the trip. Her Mom ended up driving to her and bringing her back home after she stayed the night at a hotel," the girl said. She also added, "The gas station we dropped her off at was in Florence, Arizona at around 1 pm. It was on a street with a grocery store and 2 motels."
A number of people responded with varying opinions after the woman asked if she and her friends were wrong for having dumped their friend miles away from home without any warning.
Some said the friend's behavior was inexcusable, including BDM96 who commented, "You gave her plenty of warning, telling her that y'all just want to have fun, asked her to not be obnoxious. Even if she's on the spectrum or has any other mental health issues as she claims, some of her behaviour cannot be excused... You also reminded her about her promise that she'd behave. She didn't heed it. You were also considerate enough to cashapp her money so she wouldn't be stranded."
On the other hand, there were people who said it was unjustified for the friends to simply abandon the friend without making arrangements for them to go home.
"So if you go on a vacation with friends and you get into a disagreement with them, they can just leave you behind hundreds of miles from a familiar place at any time?" wrote lacrimosa122. "I feel like I'm taking crazy pills here, how can you justify that? The girl was being an asshole but the best move at the time would be to tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and you're going to make arrangements for her to return to their hometown, not leaving her at some random gas station in the middle of nowhere with no warning..."
Pointing out that both sides could have done better, GreatMadWombat wrote, "You shouldn't... abandon the mentally ill person you know that is on the trip, but you also shouldn't have let her go with you in the first place. SHE needs to get an official diagnosis, some meds, and some therapy. You gave in to the demands of an unstable person, took them PARTIALLY on a trip, then dropped them off in a strange/unsafe space a couple hundred miles away."