She asked for money to look after her grandson even after all her living expenses were paid for.
Grandparents are the people parents can blindly trust when it comes to looking after their children. Juggling work and kids can often be hard and paid babysitters are not always reliable. So, mothers usually turn to grandparents for help with raising the children. However, this help came at a cost for a mother who shared that her son's grandma started demanding money for babysitting. A post surfaced on Mumsnet where a user, Candyfloss11, sought advice when her mother started asking for money for taking care of her nine-month-old. She has been living with her mother, her husband, and her newborn. The grandmother has been a huge help for the new mother but she expressed her disbelief towards money being involved in the situation, reports Bored Panda.
She writes, "She has helped us out a lot by looking after my son when both me and my husband are in a pinch. This has been great and much appreciated and at first i thought she was happy to help out because she expressed how much she wanted a grandchild before my son was born." She decided to let her mother stay with them so she could be closer to her grandchild and help them with taking care of him. She adds, "However she has recently said she now wants to be paid for looking after my son and is upset that we haven’t paid her at all." The user specified that the grandmother did not talk about payments in any way when she first started living with them.
"Does this seem reasonable at all? Given that she is staying with us she has no expenses, she is divorced with no partner and is retired so it’s not like she has been missing out on any employment income anyway," the user wrote, expressing her shock over her mother's unreasonable demands. She thought that she just wanted to be close to her grandchild and the parents have even taken her on several holidays with them. The user adds, "I’m more than happy to pay for expenses that she might incur for looking after my son but in our case there isn't any because she lives with us." She even goes ahead to say that if she has to pay for babysitting, she might as well take her son to a nursery where she doesn't have to bear anybody's living expenses.
The other users on the website had a lot of advice for the new mother. A user, rattlemehearties, wrote, "I agree anyway you should use a nursery and just rely on her for ad hoc situations as she clearly doesn't enjoy the current set up." MrsElijahMikaelson1 said, "Say yes-happy to pay you. At the same time, we set up the rental agreement for us housing you/subsidising your living expenses and then we can knock it off what you owe us…!" Most users commenting on her post agreed that if she wants to be paid for babysitting, she should be paying the living expenses in the house. Some even went ahead and said that the current arrangement is strange and unhealthy, per Bored Panda.
SonicBroom wrote, "This set up sounds a little unhealthy, how does your DH feel, do you have time for each other, is it a big house where you all have space? I’m not sure how something like this can really end well, does she have her own home to go back to?" Some users advised the new mother to have an honest conversation with the grandma. They said that while her demands are unfair she might have started feeling undervalued and just needs reassurance and love.
The viral Mumsnet post has over 370 comments of people expressing their own points of view on the situation. While some are arguing that there is more to this story, most are favoring the mother and asking her to take her child to a nursery or start asking her mother for living expenses before offering childcare payments.
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