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Grieving Woman Gets Asked By Mother-In-Law To Return Engagement Ring After Fiance's Death

Grieving Woman Gets Asked By Mother-In-Law To Return Engagement Ring After Fiance's Death

The woman explained that her fiance's family asked her to give them the ring "since it represented a promise that will never be fulfilled"

Stories on Reddit have proved time and again that family members can get really petty at times. This woman had to not only deal with the loss of her beloved fiance but also with her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, who were insistent on taking her engagement ring since it was "a symbol of an upcoming wedding contract" with their family member and "the contract can no longer be fulfilled."

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The woman took to Reddit to share her story, she wrote, "So, me my fiancé dated for 5 years. Last December, on our 5th year anniversary, he proposed to me, and I accepted.
In my country, engagement rings are not a major thing. Because I always watched men proposing to women with wedding rings on American movies, internet videos, tv shows, and other media, I always had that same ideal in my head. Knowing this dream of mine, and since his family doesn't have any heirlooms or family jewels, he had a goldsmith craft a wedding ring specially for me. He knew I don't like fancy and flashy jewels, I'm a very discreet person, so he had a ring made for me that was exactly what I'd like. And I did. I absolutely adore it." 

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She continued, "Sadly, a couple months ago, my fiancé fell ill and passed away. I'm not doing to go into details about it because just writing this out makes me sob. I'm still very much not over it. Skip a few weeks, and his sister and his mom (I never really got along with neither the sister nor the mom, but we were friendly towards each other) called me asking for my engagement ring. They said that, since we never got married (our wedding was schedule for early 2022) and never will, I should give the ring to the real family, since it represented a promise that will never be fulfilled." 

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The woman obviously did not want to return the ring, she wrote, "I told them no. Don't get me wrong, if it were a family jewel or family heirloom, I'd not hesitate do give it back. But it isn't. He had it made specifically for me, and I'll be keeping it, because he gave it to me on our 5th year anniversary together. Now they have gone to my parents (who they've talked to, like, twice, in all the five years me and my fiancé were together), to all their community friends (some of which I share) telling I'm appropriating of property that doesn't really belong to me anymore. My parents are on my side. Community friends are divided. Some say the ring is rightfully mine, some say that it was a symbol of a contract that fell through due to sad circumstances, and that I should give it back, that I'm keeping one of their son's property and that it should stay with his sister to pass along to her future children.
I keep saying no, but they have been so insistent that I'm starting second guessing myself." The woman then asked, "So, AITA (Am I The A**hole) for not giving the ring to them?" 

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Users supported her and asked her to stick to her decision. "First of all, I’m so sorry for your loss. Second, the ring is yours. Your late fiancé’s family doesn’t have some kind of ownership over it. He made it for you, and the fact he sadly passed doesn’t change that. You’re the rightful owner," one wrote, while another said, "The ring only exists because of the love your fiancé had for you. Consider what he would want. I'm sure it's that you wear that ring until the end of your days to remember him. Do not be coerced into giving it up." A third added, "Even if we consider the ring as a contract, what is the purpose of a contract? It’s to protect the aggrieved party if the contract isn’t fulfilled. In this case, the aggrieved party is YOU. So the ring is rightfully yours either way."

References: 

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/o4gxmh/aita_for_not_returning_an_engagement_ring_that_my/