“Nothing will make losing a child okay, but having the right support and the chance to say goodbye as you want to is key to surviving this nightmare,” the mother said.
A couple recently revealed how they created their own cuddle cot out of frozen peas to spend time with their son before his funeral.
On November 22, last year, Alice and Sam Taylor's newborn son, Thomas went into cardiac arrest after contracting a viral illness. He died in an ambulance on his way to the hospital and he was only 12 days old. The couple wanted to bring him home one last time before his funeral but no special cuddle cots, often known as cold cribs, were available, reports The Mirror.
A cuddle cot is a piece of cooling equipment that keeps infants who have died, cool for up to five days. It gives time to family and relatives to spend some time with the child before the funeral. Due to the unavailability of cuddle cots, bereavement support specialists at the hospital advised using frozen peas in his Moses basket.
Alice told the outlet, "Sitting in the Asda car park, cuddling my baby boy while Sam went in to get five bags of frozen peas was bizarre, thinking if I see anyone I know, it will be a very strange encounter. I was willing Sam to hurry up."
The couple wanted to take him home one last time before his funeral but there were no special cuddle cots, or cold cribs, available https://t.co/0F8Wim5jdB— Liverpool Echo (@LivEchonews) July 12, 2022
She added, "As bizarre as it sounds, it didn’t feel strange, because if I could have held him forever, I would have. And this was Thomas’ final journey home, so in a way, I never wanted it to end." She further said, "Taking Thomas home one final time felt like something, as parents, we had to do."
They played Ellie Goulding’s ‘How long will I love you?’ and took their son to the park for the first and last time. She said, "It meant family and friends could meet him, or say their goodbyes, and it enabled us to create precious memories that we will cherish forever."
Alice, who also has an older son named Jack, described how she gave birth to Thomas at home. Alice recalled, "He was healthy, all the checks were healthy, he was breast-feeding well, and he only lost 1% of his birth weight."
It's unbelievable that £1300 Cuddle Cots aren't available to families who need them. The NHS does not provide them and relies on donations, usually from bereaved families. With the help of family and friends we donated 5 Cuddle Cots throughout the UK.https://t.co/CiHbFyyCd2— Fraser Morton (@frasermorton07) July 12, 2022
However, at nine days old, Thomas was not feeding as well as he had been, and he also developed a temperature. Alice and Sam rushed their kid to Arrowe Park Hospital where he underwent a series of examinations, per Daily Mail. He was then transferred to the specialty children's hospital Alder Hey but he died before reaching critical care.
Alice said that while they were grieving the loss of their child, the bereavement care workers at the Snowdrop Suite were around to take care of their needs. Thomas was in Snowdrop Suite for three days where they were able to "dress him, make keepsakes of handprints and footprints, and castings of our holding hands" and create 'bittersweet memories' for the family.
"That night we stayed up, and we sang to him, people who hadn’t met him held his little hand and touched his face," Alice remembered.
Alice and her husband are now raising funds to buy cuddle cots, clothes, and blankets for the Snowdrop Suite at Alder Hey Children’s Hospital in Liverpool. “Nothing will make losing a child okay, but having the right support and the chance to say goodbye as you want to is key to surviving this nightmare,” she said.
"Having an extra cuddle cot for parents like us who want to take their babies home just before their funerals will mean they have the chance to say their final goodbyes and hold their baby one last time like we did," the grieving mother added.
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