You may have lost your faith in love and relationships for a long time until one day you find yourself growing closer and warming up to someone new.
For a long time, you have been holding yourself back from falling for someone new, maybe because you were afraid of having your trust broken again, maybe because your previous partners made you lose faith in the idea of relationships, or maybe you thought that one failed marriage meant every other relationship would fail.
While it does take time to heal from experiences like those, there will come a day where you find those inhibitions slowly wear off and you're opening up to the possibility of a new relationship. Here's how you can tell.
You may have shied away from the idea of dating again after so long. But recently, you see yourself comfortably connect with new people and not hold yourself back when a stranger strikes up a conversation with you. It could even be that you have noticed yourself feeling more drawn towards a certain someone or you're seeing them in a new light, finally allowing yourself to take the risk of being more than just a friend to someone.
Not only are you looking forward to going out on dates, but you're also ready to take that big step and commit to a solid relationship. You're not bitter about your ex or about your past relationships anymore. You're not worried about things falling apart. This time, you're just allowing yourself to enjoy the newness of feeling a strong attraction with someone again after such a long time.
The damage you experienced in the past relationships has made you isolate yourself from being free and open with people. But now, you find yourself ready to be vulnerable again with someone you trust. You no longer feel pain rush through your body when you speak about your old relationship to that person. It shows how you're learning to trust again and you're ready to open up your heart to someone who will value it.
It's not just that you're talking more and sharing more about yourself. You also find your mind and body more at peace after a long time of distancing yourself. Your mind is not second-guessing itself and your body is not restless when you're around people. Nowadays, you find yourself lost in casual and beautiful conversations, especially with that certain someone who's been growing closer to you. Not only are you more comfortable with communicating, but you're also rubbing off on other people who are trying to connect with you.
For a long time after your previous relationship, you thought it's not worth putting in the time or effort into connecting with people. But now, maintaining relationships in your life is once again a priority. You take time out to spend it with the person you have started trusting. And when they're away, you find yourself wishing that you could spend more time with them. You don't have to force yourself to be around the person; it's just something you genuinely want to do, which is a feeling that's come after so long.
There is no clear way of being sure that this time will be the right time or this partner may be different from all the others. The only thing you can do is trust your instincts and let yourself feel what you have to feel. But a part of you will also remind you of the mistakes you made last time and it's wise not to ignore that voice either. When you're ready to commit again, learn from the past and trust the beauty of the present.