Meet the women who are going closer to accepting themselves just as they are. Grey hair, wrinkles, and everything else that comes in between.
Remember that one day when you looked in the mirror and suddenly saw a strand of white hair peeping out and staring back at you? People are made to think that it's a moment where they should freak out and start worrying about how to cover their greys. But finally, people are starting to see the real beauty in loving their grey and rocking their silvers in style.
There's a community growing online called grombre with thousands of women from all kinds of ages and backgrounds, rocking their grey and celebrating the natural traces of who they are. Their Instagram page says, "A radical celebration of the natural phenomenon of grey hair."
But not all the women were able to accept their grey hair instantly. These are some of their stories.
42-year-old Debbie said, “I decided enough was enough. No more hiding behind this box of dye. I feel so proud of myself for taking the ‘scary’ leap and embracing the process of going naturally grey. It’s been fun and exciting and liberating. So much more than I ever imagined it would be!”
Kelly Goyette, who had to struggle with greys since she was a child, said, "I started pulling my hair out (trichotillomania) when I was in 5th grade for many reasons, which very generally include the culturally- and personally-loaded significance of hair as a signifier of beauty and value for women... it isn’t a coincidence that I started growing my hair out at the same time as I started confronting past traumas and undergoing treatment for PTSD. Letting my white shine has paralleled my winning battle with unjustified shame. My hair has also grown right along with my ability to practice radical acceptance and self-compassion, both works in progress."
Allie Woodall was always worried when it was time to take family pictures. But she learned something so important after she went all natural. She said, “I’m 34, a mother of 3 and it’s crazy that this is one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. I almost buckled 4 months into my journey when it came time for family pictures. But I didn’t... The best part: all my life my hair has been flat and oily but add a little gray and I finally have volume and texture. #whoknew For all the scaredy-cats out there... This is acceptance. This is forgiveness. This is love. Not a lot of people support my decision so I am ever grateful for this Instagram account. But my best friend thinks I’m brave and my husband calls me beautiful.”
After years of dying her hair from the age of 16, Beth realized that the vibrancy and uniqueness she always wanted finally came when she accepted her natural hair. She said, "I had been coloring my hair for fun and dramatic effect since I was 16. When I started to go gray, coloring my hair stopped being "fun". It felt like I was hiding something that I was supposed to be ashamed of. About 5 years ago, I decided to go gray. All on it's own, my hair became what I'd been trying to achieve for years through dyes -- dynamic, unique, and vibrant. It feels so good to just be myself."
Ninamourette, loving her greys through her 30s credits her mother for showing her how to embrace herself and said, "...I have to admit that my mother was right when sometimes I would tell her "you know mum, you should dye them in black to look younger, ten years less at least!" and she would say "no way, I don't want to have to dye them every month". Today, I realize how blind I was. I realize her beauty is authentic. That she is free. And that she has never yielded to my "advice" mainly dictated by society. Thank you mum for having shown me the way! I love you."
Marina L. DeFoor started seeing greys from 7th grade and is now grateful for how supportive her loved ones were when she decided to stop dying and going all natural. She said, "Honestly, I was pretty hesitant, but one evening when my boyfriend and his sweet family heard I was contemplating going gray, they encouraged me whole heartedly, giving me that boost of confidence I was lacking. Now, I wish I had never even began dying my hair in the first place... My heart feels so full when someone tells me I’ve inspired them to embrace their natural beauty as well – whatever it may be! So, what I’d like to say to you is, don’t hide your natural beauty, whatever it may be – embrace it! You’ll soon thank yourself.”
Mindy Gale shared how loving her grey was loving her age and said, “My silver to me means embracing the aging process. It’s not for everyone and that’s totally okay. I have A LOT of silver and wanted to see what would happen if I stopped trying to hide it and, instead, tried used plant based products to enhance it. That was almost 2 years ago and my hair, and confidence, have never been better.”
Juliana Marie wanted to be nothing but herself on her wedding day, and said, "I got married last year. I had people saying ‘you should dye your hair for your wedding. You’ll regret it. You’re going to look so old!’. I could not be happier about the fact that I was MYSELF on my wedding day!”