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Woman Shocked After Her Own Mom Betrays Her By Marrying Father Of Her Kids | "I Don’t Know Who My Mum Is Anymore"

Woman Shocked After Her Own Mom Betrays Her By Marrying Father Of Her Kids | "I Don’t Know Who My Mum Is Anymore"

Clive Bunden waited for years to marry his mother-in-law as the laws did not allow them to unite.

Some relationships take unexpected turns and may not be easily acceptable to the public. Clive Bunden and his wife Brenda's relationship is weird to many as it is against conventional beliefs. Before marrying Brenda, Clive was married to her daughter, Irene. 

According to Mirror, Clive got married to Irene in 1977 though his mother-in-law Brenda was not a big fan of him. The couple went on to have two daughters, Sarah and Tanya. However, their relationship ended after eight years. The events that followed were just unexpected. Clive took Brenda out and their dynamics changed over a couple of drinks.



 

“We fell in love. One night, he took me for a drink and we ended up kissing," recalled Brenda. Their relationship shocked Irene. She claimed that her mother betrayed her and stated, "I don’t know who my mum is anymore. Clive has split our family. I’ll never forgive him.”

Meanwhile, the love birds decided to tie the knot in 1997 but Clive got arrested.

The authorities told him there was a “lawful impediment” to marrying his former mother-in-law. They further added that he could go to prison for up to seven years. The couple was heartbroken after knowing that the law prevented them from uniting. However, they were not planning to give up on their dream of getting married. Brenda changed her surname to Clive and he began campaigning to alter the 500-year-old law.

"I thought we should be married because we had been through everything together. We were being stopped unfairly. I didn’t think it was right, so I wanted to change it," said Clive, according to Mirror Online.



 

Fortunately, after 10 years, the laws were finally altered. The 65-year-old did not wait long to propose to Brenda. “I remember when we heard the news on the TV, in September 2005. I went down on one knee straight away and proposed to Brenda. I had tears in my eyes," said Clive, according to Mirror Online. 

On March 17, 2007, the couple officially said their "I dos" and became husband and wife. They tied the knot at Warrington register office, the same place Clive married Irene.

The couple's decision to get married was not supported by their families. Nobody attended the wedding or congratulated them except for a distant relative, who sent a card.



 

"It was a very emotional day. It had been a struggle to get to that point but it was a wonderful day and we will always remember it," said Clive. Brenda added, "Our families didn’t come because they didn’t agree with it. But all we cared about was being with each other.”

The couple even went on a honeymoon to Spain. Thinking about his married life with Brenda, Clive stated, "Marriage to Brenda has definitely changed me. I felt different straight away. I was more relaxed. Until we got married I felt something was missing."

He added, “We’ve been through a lot so to come out of it the other end is an achievement. What made it perfect for me is we can be on our own all day and still get along. We would do it all again.”



 

Brenda credits her husband for taking care of her. She also recalled how she did not approve of him when he was seeing her daughter. “Clive is caring and lovable and he looks after me very well. He does have some bad habits. His nail-biting drives me mad. I still joke about how much I disliked him when he was going out with my daughter and became my son-in-law." She added, "We don’t go out of our way to tell strangers how we met and when we do they don’t believe us. A lot of people thought it wouldn’t last but we can’t live without each other.”

Earlier this year, Brenda faced some health issues but Clive stood by her. “Oxygen wasn’t getting to my heart and they had to put a pacemaker in. Thankfully, I’m doing smashing now.  Clive’s my carer – he does everything for me. We’re still so happy," said the 77-year-old. The couple is moving forward even though their family still oppose their union. 

References:

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/man-marries-mother-law-after-22695330